— JOHN NOSTA (@JohnNosta) May 14, 2017
Too much emotional intelligence increases stress because if you focus too much on the feelings of others, you second-guess yourself into oblivion. You become paralyzed in your choices.
This reminds me of a guest speaker I was listening to the other day. She said women spend too much time second-guessing themselves in the workplace. “Was my tone okay?” “Did I say the right thing at the right time?” She argues that men do none of this second-guessing, and that it is a waste of time.
In my head – not out loud, unfortunately – I argued that there is a place for second-guessing; self-reflection is a form of second-guessing. Self-reflection is how we learn.
Moderation. Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. Always.