Second-Guessing

This tweet.

Too much emotional intelligence increases stress because if you focus too much on the feelings of others, you second-guess yourself into oblivion.  You become paralyzed in your choices.

This reminds me of a guest speaker I was listening to the other day. She said women spend too much time second-guessing themselves in the workplace.  “Was my tone okay?” “Did I say the right thing at the right time?” She argues that men do none of this second-guessing, and that it is a waste of time.

In my head – not out loud, unfortunately – I argued that there is a place for second-guessing; self-reflection is a form of second-guessing. Self-reflection is how we learn.

Moderation.  Too much of a good thing is a bad thing.  Always.

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